If you're not familiar with Byron Katie's work called "The Work" or her several books, I'd recommend you read this one. It is filled with actual dialogues she's had with individuals who've attended her live seminars. Katie works with each person on a particular challenge or hurt in his or her life which has been difficult to let go. Breakthroughs abound! Our notions of who we are--and who others are--and what life really is get questioned in a humorous and piercing way.
Katie has developed four questions which she calls "inquiry" as a tool to explore and shift any "story" we have about ourselves, others, or life which may not be serving us (or others!). We ask: 1. Is it true? 2. Can we absolutely know it's true? 3. How do we feel or react believing this is true? 4. Who would we be without this truth or story? In addition, Katie encourages us to "turnaround" our story. For example, if my story is "nobody understands or supports me in the way I deserve it" I would go through the four questions of inquiry and see what really comes up for me and then, in the "turnaround" I can choose to reframe my statement, to see if there are other possible truths/stories that fit as well: "I don't really understand or support (others) in the way they deserve it"; "I don't understand or support myself in the way I deserve it"; "Others do understand and support me in the way I deserve it."
You might be surprised what new perspectives are revealed for you. See more of Byron Katie's work at www.thework.com
Terrence Daryl Shulman , is a Detroit area therapist, attorney, author, and consultant. He is the founder and Director of The Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft & Spending. He is the author “Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pending” (2008), “Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic… New Perspectives, New Solutions” (2005) and “Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery” (2003). Mr. Shulman can be reached at terrenceshulman@theshulmancenter.com or 248-358-8508. His websites include www.theshulmancenter.com and www.shopaholicsanonymous.org. Mr. Shulman does counseling and consulting locally and by phone.
Terry is organizing and presenting at The Third International Conference on Compulsive Theft, Spending & Hoarding on Saturday October 1, 2011 from 8:30am – 4:30pm in Detroit at The Embassy Suites Detroit Metro Airport Hotel. See www.theshulmancenter.com/conference11.htm.
Terrence Daryl Shulman , is a Detroit area therapist, attorney, author, and consultant. He is the founder and Director of The Shulman Center for Compulsive Theft & Spending. He is the author “Bought Out and $pent! Recovery from Compulsive $hopping and $pending” (2008), “Biting The Hand That Feeds: The Employee Theft Epidemic… New Perspectives, New Solutions” (2005) and “Something for Nothing: Shoplifting Addiction and Recovery” (2003). Mr. Shulman can be reached at 