If Money Were Your Lover, Would You Still Be Having Sex?

One of the reasons I was drawn to Access Consciousness™ is that it offered a set of tools that could easily change anything that wasn’t working in my life. And trust me, as a psychotherapist for twenty-plus years I was skeptical because I had certainly heard that one before! Few modalities or techniques had actually delivered.  

Access Consciousness™ is different because it doesn’t assume to know what is best for you, instead, it empowers you to know what you know, and chose for yourself what is true and works for you. It teaches how to achieve total clarity and awareness about how to transform your life by asking questions that are generative and expansive. And by staying “in the question” you begin to unravel all they ways you’ve limited yourself based on acting from judgments and conclusions, 98% of which you simply bought and downloaded from everyone around you since the day you were born!

By asking questions, new possibilities emerge and get set in motion that would never occur to you if you kept your focus on what wasn’t working. Take the issue of not having enough money. What we typically do is make a lot of judgments and conclusions about our financial situation, which only serves to lock those limitations into place. Then we use those limitations to define how much abundance we will allow ourselves to receive.

Take credit card debt for instance; if you feel you are bad, wrong, or irresponsible for spending money you don’t have, racking up debt until you are drowning in it, will you want to be more aware of it? NO! More likely, you’ll avoid opening or paying those bills because you feel they are evidence that you can’t live within your means or manage your money. And the more you avoid them, the worse you feel. So you end up constantly giving energy to your judgments about your lack of money instead of how to make it work for you. Does this change anything about your credit card debt? No!

In order to heal your relationship with money, the first thing you might want to try is to identify everywhere you’ve made money bad, scarce, evil or wrong. Try to uncover every judgment and subconscious agenda you have for sending money away, because it’s the false and limiting beliefs that make it impossible to turn your financial situation around, not you!

So let’s play with the idea of “if money were your lover” like Rikka showed us and see how you might be pushing money out the door so that it can’t be the kind and nurturing, joy-producing partner it could be for you.

Pretend your money, let’s call it “Mr. M “or “Ms. M”, is right in the room with you. What are some of the ways you think and feel about money so that it doesn’t want to stick around and procreate with you?

Take for instance the thought that money is the root of all evil. If money were your lover do you think it would want to stay if you loathed its very existence? Right… Not for long!

How many of you feel like money always lets you down? So that your empty wallet is one big fat reminder that money is “just not that into you!”

Do you feel that your money honey needs too much attention, that its “too high maintenance” and that you’d rather have less of it than deal with the demands of having it around?

How many of you don’t trust yourself around it, fearing if you had it, you’d lose all self-respect and go completely wild out of control with it?

What if you felt like you didn’t deserve it, or that money pays way more attention to everyone else but you? Do you get jealous of others for having more money? Are you beginning to feel like you’re 16 again, with all that teenage angst and relationship drama, but this time its with your money?

Would you let your teenage self be in charge of your bank or retirement account? Mine would make sure I spent every last dime on I-Tunes, cute clothes and vacations! Put a VISA card in her hot little hands and oh boy! Tomorrow is another day! Hurrah!

See how easily negative and limiting beliefs about money push it straight out of your universe? As Rikka said, “if you truly want to know whether you love money or not, just look at your bank account!” Ouch! So whatever that brings up, times a godzillion do you wish to destroy and uncreate it all? By clearing out all the false and limiting beliefs you have about money you won’t keep recreating a life based on them.

Then begin to ask yourself “what else is possible?” and “how does it get better than this?” When I started asking those questions, and stayed open to possibility with no judgments or conclusions limiting my receiving, I was blown away by how quickly money and other resources showed up in my world to support the life that I truly desired.

What if you didn’t judge yourself for your financial situation? What if you began to live into the question of “what else is possible?” or how about this one: “what can I be, do, have, create, generate, choose or change today that would bring me more money today and in the future?” If you were willing to keep asking questions, could you create any limitations in your life? Or would your life just be an ever-expanding universe of possibility?